How to Eliminate Toxic People from Your Life
Toxic people can be very dangerous. They can cause you extreme stress, alt your progress, and can take a massive drain on your time, resources, and happiness. I have experienced toxic people in my life and I had to distance myself away from most of them to concentrate on contracting to my towing service clients. In business and your line of work, you may encounter toxic people as well. You may find yourself dealing with a manipulative boss, a backbiting friend among others.
If you put a lot of focus on these people, they can cause damage to your positive thinking, alter your progress, and make you live a miserable life. It is important to cut toxic people out of your life, and here is how to go about it.
Keep them at a distance
First, consider distancing yourself from them as compared to complete removal. Consider your relationship with them and estimate their toxicity levels. Some toxic friends and colleagues can be improved simply by creating space between you and them. See and talk to them less and be less available in places where they are found. If it is a family member, it is important to understand that you don’t owe anything to your family members simply because you are related by blood.
Accept it may take time
If a toxic person has a tendency of disrespecting your principles and boundaries, they will likely not accept your current boundaries. You need to be firm, principled, and consistent in telling them to stay away. Cutting ties from them can be a process, and it will start by creating a distance between you and them.
Avoid making unnecessary explanations
You owe no one apology and when you cut toxic people from them, you have no need to give them any huge explanation. It is okay to tell them how you feel but you don’t need to give them any explanation whatsoever. Always try to keep things simple if you have to disclose any details to them. You can look into their lives and tell them calmly you don’t want to be part of their life anymore. Avoid getting caught up in unnecessary debates.
There comes a time to communicate to them your state of mind. First, choose your method of communication. You can meet them in a public place if you have to. If they try to argue or cause a scene, firmly stand by your boundaries and swiftly end the interaction. Avoid getting into their trap to negotiate and request them to leave you alone. Have a steady-state of made up mind and express yourself firmly.
Block your interactions
Getting rid of toxic relationships requires preventing all forms of contact. One of the leading places toxic people hide to stalk you is on social media. Block all their interactions with you on social media and don’t give them an opportunity to remain in your life. Stick firmly to your boundaries and block all lines of communication.